Undoing the myth of White=beauty: Reading Snow White to my daughter

Undoing the myth of White=beauty: Reading Snow White to my daughter

by Sachi Feris A friend had been staying in our apartment while we were on vacation and left some Disney-version fairytale books from her Spanish class for my then-two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Among them, “Snow White and the Seven Dwarves” which my…

“People decide for themselves how they want to identify” or dismantling the gender binary with my children

“People decide for themselves how they want to identify” or dismantling the gender binary with my children

by Sachi Feris The other day I overheard my mom reading a board book of “first words” to my eight-month-old son. On the first fold of the book, she read: “girl” and then “boy.” “When we read,” I told my…

Staceyann and Zuri Chin’s Living Room Protests: A conversation with Staceyann

Staceyann and Zuri Chin’s Living Room Protests: A conversation with Staceyann

by Sachi Feris Performance artist Staceyann Chin and her four-year-old daughter, Zuri, have been modeling powerful conversations about positive racial identity, gender identity, children’s rights, human rights, and many other important topics over the past year. These conversations are child-centric,…

I am my mother's daughter: Assumptions about my multi-racial family

I am my mother’s daughter: Assumptions about my multi-racial family

by Lori Taliaferro Riddick I have been told many, many times that my mom and I do not resemble each other. My mom has straight blonde hair, green eyes, and White skin while I have café au lait colored skin,…

Anti-Asian racism and young children

Anti-Asian racism and young children

by Sachi Feris A decade ago, I was in a car with my husband and two Argentine friends in downtown Manhattan. We slowed down to stop at a red light and saw two pedestrians waiting to cross the street, both…

Conversations with my four-year-old about racism

Conversations with my four-year-old about racism

by guest blogger Rhea St. Julien I’ve been with my husband, who is Black, for 15 years, but I have been White all my life. I still get things wrong, I still miss racist stuff, and I still don’t always…

The Third Little Pig: A lesson on wealth redistribution

The Third Little Pig: A lesson on wealth redistribution

by Sachi Feris While I was in Argentina recently, I found a pop-up version of “The Three Little Pigs” in Spanish, which I purchased and quickly became one of my son’s favorite books. After about 100 readings, literally, it occurred…

How (and why) I introduced gender identity to my 3-year-old son

by guest blogger Shannon Cofrin Gaggero My husband and I are striving to raise our children outside the confines of traditional gender norms. We are not raising our kids without gender influences altogether, but we are actively trying to create space…

Why I want to read books with protagonists of color to my White son

Why I want to read books with protagonists of color to my White son

by guest blogger Suzanne Feinspan I loved reading as a kid. Weekly trips to the library and monthly ones to the bookstore were some of the highlights of my childhood.  I still have a strong sentimental attachment to many of…

My son likes the color pink: Facing gender stereotypes

My son likes the color pink: Facing gender stereotypes

by guest blogger Clint Edwards I was sitting on the sofa next to my eight-year-old son, watching Pokémon, when he let out a long breath and said, “Dad, I like pink.” He wouldn’t look me in the eye, as though…