New Promises to My White Children, Part Two

New Promises to My White Children, Part Two

This is post #2 (in series of three) detailing Adelaide Lancaster’s journey as a White parent (and co-founder of WeStories.org). Click here to read the first post in this series. Promise #2:  I promise to refrain from using coded language When…

New Promises to My White Children: Part One

New Promises to My White Children: Part One

This is the first in a series of three posts detailing Adelaide Lancaster’s journey as a White parent (and co-founder of WeStories.org). Dear E, H, & P: In the days and months since Michael Brown was shot I’ve thought a…

“They are WAY to young to understand!:” What Harriet Tubman taught my White five-year-old

“They are WAY to young to understand!:” What Harriet Tubman taught my White five-year-old

by guest blogger Alexandra Lopez Reitzes My five-year-old tends to have a Song Of The Week—the random tune she warbles to herself all day, every day, until a new song comes along. Last winter, one song stuck around far longer….

Renters or owners in our school?: Questions and reflections from a parent of color

Renters or owners in our school?: Questions and reflections from a parent of color

by Lori Taliaferro Riddick “He takes a circuitous route to hang up his coat to avoid them,” I told the head of the lower school. “That’s a good strategy,” he replied. And I sat there dumbfounded. Why should my child…

Undoing the myth of White=beauty: Reading Snow White to my daughter

Undoing the myth of White=beauty: Reading Snow White to my daughter

by Sachi Feris A friend had been staying in our apartment while we were on vacation and left some Disney-version fairytale books from her Spanish class for my then-two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Among them, “Snow White and the Seven Dwarves” which my…

"Who lived here before?": Brooklyn's changing skyline

“Who lived here before?”: Brooklyn’s changing skyline

by Sachi Feris My daughter has picked up many a book (from my children’s book collection that preceded her birth) that was too long or complicated for her present age and insisted that I read it to her. One such…

“People decide for themselves how they want to identify” or dismantling the gender binary with my children

“People decide for themselves how they want to identify” or dismantling the gender binary with my children

by Sachi Feris The other day I overheard my mom reading a board book of “first words” to my eight-month-old son. On the first fold of the book, she read: “girl” and then “boy.” “When we read,” I told my…

I am my mother's daughter: Assumptions about my multi-racial family

I am my mother’s daughter: Assumptions about my multi-racial family

by Lori Taliaferro Riddick I have been told many, many times that my mom and I do not resemble each other. My mom has straight blonde hair, green eyes, and White skin while I have café au lait colored skin,…

Anti-Asian racism and young children

Anti-Asian racism and young children

by Sachi Feris A decade ago, I was in a car with my husband and two Argentine friends in downtown Manhattan. We slowed down to stop at a red light and saw two pedestrians waiting to cross the street, both…

Conversations with my four-year-old about racism

Conversations with my four-year-old about racism

by guest blogger Rhea St. Julien I’ve been with my husband, who is Black, for 15 years, but I have been White all my life. I still get things wrong, I still miss racist stuff, and I still don’t always…