Telling my White four-year-old about Alton Sterling and Philando Castile

Telling my White four-year-old about Alton Sterling and Philando Castile

by Sachi Feris The past 24-hours have been wrought with power struggles between me and my four-year-old, leading to emotions running high for both of us. In response to this, we have been brainstorming strategies for dealing with emotions of…

Dissent is patriotic: July 4th and my four-year-old

Dissent is patriotic: July 4th and my four-year-old

by Sachi Feris In planning a special sleepover night in which my four-year-old would stay up late at my mom’s to watch Macy’s fireworks, I asked my daughter: “Do you know want to know what this July 4th fireworks celebration is…

My daughter’s rainbow dress: “In support of all queer and gay people”

My daughter’s rainbow dress: “In support of all queer and gay people”

by Sachi Feris My daughter was two-and-a-half in the fall of 2014 when Michael Brown and Eric Garner and Black Lives Matter were all over the news. During those months, I wrote a post entitled, “How I would talk to…

“They are WAY to young to understand!:” What Harriet Tubman taught my White five-year-old

“They are WAY to young to understand!:” What Harriet Tubman taught my White five-year-old

by guest blogger Alexandra Lopez Reitzes My five-year-old tends to have a Song Of The Week—the random tune she warbles to herself all day, every day, until a new song comes along. Last winter, one song stuck around far longer….

Renters or owners in our school?: Questions and reflections from a parent of color

Renters or owners in our school?: Questions and reflections from a parent of color

by Lori Taliaferro Riddick “He takes a circuitous route to hang up his coat to avoid them,” I told the head of the lower school. “That’s a good strategy,” he replied. And I sat there dumbfounded. Why should my child…

Undoing the myth of White=beauty: Reading Snow White to my daughter

Undoing the myth of White=beauty: Reading Snow White to my daughter

by Sachi Feris A friend had been staying in our apartment while we were on vacation and left some Disney-version fairytale books from her Spanish class for my then-two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Among them, “Snow White and the Seven Dwarves” which my…

"Who lived here before?": Brooklyn's changing skyline

“Who lived here before?”: Brooklyn’s changing skyline

by Sachi Feris My daughter has picked up many a book (from my children’s book collection that preceded her birth) that was too long or complicated for her present age and insisted that I read it to her. One such…

“People decide for themselves how they want to identify” or dismantling the gender binary with my children

“People decide for themselves how they want to identify” or dismantling the gender binary with my children

by Sachi Feris The other day I overheard my mom reading a board book of “first words” to my eight-month-old son. On the first fold of the book, she read: “girl” and then “boy.” “When we read,” I told my…

What’s tone got to do with it? (when you’re talking about race and other issues of justice)

What’s tone got to do with it? (when you’re talking about race and other issues of justice)

by Sachi Feris The other day my dad was visiting and I overheard an exchange between him and my daughter around the brushing of her teeth. My dad kept turning the water off, impressing upon my daughter the importance of…

Staceyann and Zuri Chin’s Living Room Protests: A conversation with Staceyann

Staceyann and Zuri Chin’s Living Room Protests: A conversation with Staceyann

by Sachi Feris Performance artist Staceyann Chin and her four-year-old daughter, Zuri, have been modeling powerful conversations about positive racial identity, gender identity, children’s rights, human rights, and many other important topics over the past year. These conversations are child-centric,…